Anarchy and states both have chaos and peace, and, in reality, exist simultaneously. Anarchy is everywhere the state isn't, and is rapidly becoming more and more exceptional.
Anarchy is present in relatively few chaotic experiences, as the greatest chaos is created by state actions such as war and market interference. Anarchy is present in all truly peaceful experiences, as true peace is never presided over.
Anarchy is at your local farmers market or your family dinners. Anarchy is a day spent fishing a spot where you don't have to worry about permits.
*Most people are smart enough to figure out it's in their best interest to live peaceably. It's why most of us aren't running around robbing and killing right now. These behaviors have consequences whether there is a state or not. Most of us don't want the drama or negative emotion that comes with hurting people.*
**There are better ways to deal with aggressive people than giving some of them a monopoly on force, justice, and money.**