You can choose to remain nestled in denial, feverishly tracing out the chalk outline of your victimhood status if you prefer. You'll just be very confused why your life keeps going the way it's going. However, if you can get in the mindframe of 100% responsibility, whether it's factually your fault or not, the mindset alone is incredibly empowering and it becomes SO much clearer how to approach life's problems. If men started acting like men in this way, society, in general, would not be where it is today.