You have to just love them for who they are. You do not have to like them, don't have to respect their choices or motivations, but you have to go deeper into your feelings and see loving them is the only way out of the pattern we are in. Many demand we watch them, feed them praise, but loving them unconditionally is the way we avert attachment to their motivations and actions. This breaks the chain of being fed upon or being a feeder, moves you out of the cycle of karma, and lets you get down to your core motivations