Saying No Without Feeling Guilty

Right from the day we were able to fully understand and identify feelings, one of the first things being taught to us is kindness. And that is one of the greatest lessons one can learn. The need to be kind can never be overemphasized. I always say that when you're looking for a life partner, look out for someone who has kindness, not just to you but to others as well, especially when you aren't present. When everything other thing is gone, that alone can hold things together till you both find your feet again. Comparing this to the title of my post may seem farfetched but stay with me. Saying no is another great lesson one can learn in life. Once you are able to overcome the emotional guilt that accompanies the word "NO", you lead a peaceful life. There is so much bliss that comes with saying NO to anything you can't do or things that threaten your peace. People will emotionally blackmail you. This happens more when you're a kind person. You'll hear all sorts of things that will break your heart and eventually make you do the things you wouldn't want to on a normal day if you aren't careful. And there are also those who would make you feel like you committed a grevious sin. I normally say; *'yes baby, I know I'm proud. Now leave my proudness alone for me'*. As funny as it may sound, it isn't. When you constantly give in to the pressure, you begin to lose yourself. It gets to a point where you don't recognise yourself anymore. It might be too late to go back then. No, this isn't a post to encourage stinginess, or treating people wrongly. Rather, to break the stereotype that one has to say yes to everything because those things make sense, according to the standards of those issuing it. It also happen in relationships. One party would be agreeing to everything, even when it hurts them, because they do not want to offend. At the end of the day, they end up getting hurt, and when they can't breathe anymore, everything gets ruined. What's the point then? What kind of a person are you? Do you pressure people to say yes to you all the time to the point of causing them discomfort? Yes? Go and sin no more. Also, go out there and say NO with your full chest. #psychology #kindness #peace #healing #writing

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