So apparently there's a bunch of trans people who don't disclose that they're trans before they have sex with their sexual partners "for their own safety". You'd be more unsafe if they found out you were trans after the fact than if you said so before. The only people who don't know the difference are virgins and drunk people, so some exploitation is going on here. And finally... If you're so scared of being honest, here's one simple trick you can use: DON'T FUCK THEM. DON'T BE A WHORE. IT'S THAT EASY.