...to take responsibility and become adult human beings are in the psychological condition of ‘Self-Loathing.’ What this means is, they hate themselves; nobody that wants to perpetuate slavery can possibly love themselves. Self-loathing is the underlying psychological condition that causes people to attempt to abdicate their own personal responsibility to exercise conscience, and fall into patterns of order-following and justification. Just as it is not possible for an order-follower to truly be exercising conscience; it is also not possible for an order-follower to truly love themselves. These states cannot exist simultaneously, for they are contradictory psychological conditions. Self-loathing is created when an earlier trauma has been buried into the subconscious mind, instead of being confronted, dealt with, and healed. Such trauma could form feelings of inadequacy; whether they are real, suggested, or simply imagined. A mind-set as such is a psychological prison, and yet, people suffering from self-loathing usually don’t seem to have any desire for true freedom; ‘they are in the cage, and they love being in the cage.’ The only kind of people that have no desire for real freedom, are people in the psychological state of self-loathing, that do not love themselves. Self-respect heals self-loathing; it is about introspection (observation or examination of one's own conscious thoughts and emotional state). The word ‘Respect’ is derived from the Latin prefix ‘Re-’ which means ‘Again’ and the Latin verb ‘Spectare’ which means ‘to Look at.’ – ‘to Take another look at oneself,’ is where true respect starts. You cannot give somebody something that you don’t already own yourself. If you don’t have $10,- in your pocket you could impossibly give it to someone else. You must obtain it first, before you can give it away. Therefore, nobody can give respect to anybody else unless they first developed it inwardly. Self-respect must come first, which is why people in the state of self-loathing don’t respect anybody, least of all themselves. Only self-respect can heal self-loathing, and therefore help put an order-follower on the path to exercising conscience. Instead of spending time, energy and effort looking at themselves in the mirror, they take their time, energy and effort to purposely try to put people down, make fun of them, insult them, call them names, and they enjoy it. It feeds their negative ego-“I”-self construct. They don’t want to deal with their own internal issues and be a more positive ego-“I”-self. They often don’t even see and recognize these deep issues within themselves. They also often don’t want to see, they don’t want to look. They are in denial about themselves. They lack the ability to look at themselves honestly, they lack self-respect. Respect means to look at again. Self-respect is to look at yourself again and again, deeply, within yourself, your consciousness, psyche, etc. This is not about literally looking into a mirror. This is symbolism, analogy and metaphor (which most of my work/posts deal with). Look beneath the facade of who you pretend to be to others, the fake duplicitous projection you hide behind, and see who you really are by your actions across the board. Take a hard look at yourself, the real you inside, and heal yourself with with self-respect. Then you can start to respect others after you deal with your own internal mess. Find that issue that has you engaging in these actions, find the root causal factor. It usually comes back to a lack of self-care and self-“love”. If you deny there is even such a thing as a range of emotions characterized by words like care or “love”, then you are stuck in denial and will never heal. Learn to have more respect and responsibility for yourself and your actions. This requires care, courage and will-power to honestly face the mirror. Stop subconsciously seeing yourself as a victim that needs to lash out at others who did nothing to you. This is creating a cycle of abuse and victimhood to justify and excuse your actions towards others. Psychopath etymologically means suffering of the psyche, mind or consciousness, from psyche (mind) + pathos (suffering). Most of us are suffering from the condition of this world (within varying comparative degrees). We all have some level of issue in psyche, consciousness, don’t we? But some people are more visibly “psychopathic”, more visibly in a state of deep suffering, than others, because we can see it by their actions. We are socially engineered, conditioned, programmed, brainwashed and indoctrinated into a falser ways of living, to be a falser self than the potential we could be, influenced into a delusion of illusions and appearances that prevents us from realizing and actualizing our substantive, authentic, truer, realer, higher potential we can become. We are often engaging in wrong actions, creating suffering for others, because we suffer ourselves. It’s a catch 22 in many ways. The only way to escape the cycle is to learn and become aware of how this is functioning around us and within us. But this is no excuse, justification or rationalization to continue with our current condition and perpetuate more suffering. Empathy and compassion is to feel suffering for others where we can bear the mirroring simulation of feeling as they do. If we create evil and suffering for others, it can be ignorantly and unconsciously. Unconsciously, because we are not consciously aware nor evolved enough in consciousness to know the reality of what we are doing and therefore live in a false reality, an unreality. This can be because we often lack knowledge of right from wrong, good from evil, and are unconsciously living in falsity, through fear, ignorance, apathy, cowardice and laziness of Truth and Morality, a lack of True Care, for ourselves, and others. If we create suffering, we are suffering, and we are suffering from a lack of self-knowledge. Know thyself, the suffering you endured, the suffering you create, and how consciousness functions. The lack of self-knowledge is from a lack of self-respect to look at ourselves in the mirror, a lack of self-“love” to care to do that work on ourselves, and a lack of self-responsibility to own up to the actions and behaviors we create in reality. This lack of self-knowledge, self-respect, self-love and self-responsibility creates the self-inflicted suffering and self-imposed enslavement we live in and continue to perpetuate, for ourselves, and others. As long as we harm others we have no right to harm, who did no one any harm, then we create suffering, trauma and abuse, for them and ourselves because we are in a state of suffering in consciousness. We lack conscious awareness of ourselves, and lack care, compassion, empathy, conscience and morality. Healing, growing, evolving, changing, etc., takes time, attention, energy, effort, dedication, determination and persistence. https://thegreatwork208716197.wordpress.com/2025/04/05/self-loathing-vs-self-respect/.
