Bullies & Victims

It is one of the hardest things to end in your life, believing you are a victim.  Call it whatever you wish, bully, master, victim, slave, it's all the same thing. It's a state of consciousness. You believe you are a victim.

Bullies were first victimized and then became a bully to stop feeling like a victim.

Did you watch the Golden Globes? Did you hear the women bully the men and did you hear the men being victims, apologizing even though those particular men did absolutely nothing to them?

Once you realize you have been a victim you get so angry it is hard to not become a bully to the ones that victimized you but to take an entire group and say it is all of you is hateful and it will come back to bite you on the ass.

Don't get me wrong. Go ahead and do that if you wish. Does it make you happy to do that? Ok go for it. You are maligning another therefore maligning yourself and you will suffer for it. Remember Kathy Griffin?

It all boils down to one thing. Love yourself.

If you love yourself you do not apologize for being you. If you love yourself you do not allow another to abuse you no matter what. If you love yourself you laugh at this silliness because you know you are awesome and they can think whatever they wish. You don't care. 

Those who cry, Time magazine of year ladies, me too's, who never said a word until now, who signed NDAs and took the money, who got the career move they wished for the price they believed they had to pay, well you got what you wanted. You don't get to cry poor poor me! It was a fair trade. You took the money, you got what you wanted for your career. 

Men who go around apologizing for being men or people who go around apologizing for being a certain color are expressing a victim consciousness. Enjoy! You will have others show up to bully you so you can be the victim you believe you are. How's that feel?

I know how it feels. It sucks. 

No one is doing anything to you. You are doing it to you. You believe you are a victim so bullies show up to victimize you. Stop crying. Be happy you got what you asked for and now recognize that and start asking for what you really want. 

Be confident. There are no conditions. You make the conditions. You are awesome just because I AM and for no other reason. You are I AM and therefore you are amazing and wonderful and perfect.

This wouldn't be a very good play if we all thought the same way. It would be boring. Each one of us is in our own world, our own universe, and each one of us makes that world, that universe what we believe it to be.

You may win the lottery but if you believe you are a victim you will lose it all in some way. You may toss negative people out of your life but until you stop believing people are negative more are going to show up to be negative for you. Just giving you what you are asking for, what you want right?

No one is doing anything to you. Not Trump, Clinton, your neighbor, your boss you whatever. They are doing exactly what you think and believe. 

You are a projector, projecting the inside to the outside. Do you like what you see? Do you like your experience?  If no say thank you and flip your thinking. 

It's ok if you want to hate on white people. Some white person will come save you from something one day forcing you to rethink that. It's ok if you want to hate on men.  Same thing will happen. You will hate, malign, cry against the world and the world will attack you as you believe it does.  

We all play Saul. Righteous in our belief. Bullying away on the victims then bam! You realize it was all you and now you play Paul.

It's just a state of consciousness and you can change them. Like Joseph's robe. You are making a robe of many colors and when you are done you will be born.

You are not a human dying all the time experiencing and seeking a spiritual experience. You are a spiritual being inside a human body seeking experiences to learn how to use unconditional love which is nothing more than your attention.

What do you give your attention to?

So in the end it is all good.