That's not "Real" Feminism

How many times have you heard this statement from a feminist? I’m not talking about the crazy anti-manspreading, anti-mansplaining, slut walk supporting feminists. I’m talking about the real, everyday, equality between the sexes supporting feminist.

Here are a few of examples of “real” feminism I experienced with a true feminist and her idea of what true equality is all about.

A while ago I was doing some unpaid charity work and I found myself working alongside just such a feminist. I was spending three days a week (24 hours) unpaid working in the shop, while she was working two days (16 hours) and being paid. It is interesting to note that at no time did she see this as a form of inequality, however that changed when I returned to full time employment.

After a while I stopped by the shop to see how everyone was and while chatting the subject of money came up. She was curious as to how much I was earning and after quoting a ball park figure her response was “It’s so unfair that you get paid more than me.”

Bear in mind that she knew what my job entailed, that I was working with machinery in all weathers (not a cosy little shop), and that I had worked more than two and a half times the hours that she did, yet she felt it was unfair that I earned more than she did.

There is equality in the eyes of the average feminist, equality of outcome, not true equality, because in their eyes, effort is irrelevant. But even that is not the true nature. You see when I was the one not earning the same as her, well, that did not matter.

So to sum up this incident,the feminist idea of equality is simply equality of outcome, but only when it applies when women are earning less. So the reality is that the average true feminist supports female superiority, not equality.

The second incident with this feminist revolved around a discussion on domestic violence. Despite quoting government statistics, a number of actual experiences and the experiences of others I had seen first hand, none of this mattered (no surprise there), as it was all just anecdotal.

Her way of refuting all of this was her own experience with one man and feminist dogma. From this you can see that the only evidence a true feminist will accept will be her own experiences and those of her fellow feminists.

The final nail in the coffin for true feminism was an overheard conversation between her and another member of staff.

She was complaining that her husband was not doing enough and would have to start “pulling his weight”. Here is a man working 40+ hours a week while she only does 16 hours and HE’S not pulling HIS weight? You couldn’t make this shit up!

But anyway let’s break this situation down and look at the equality aspect.

We’ve already covered the work aspect and he’s definitely outperforming her to a massive extent, but what about the home aspect? He spend two full days at home each week while she has five, yet she demands he do half of the housework. In other words, on the days she is home and makes a mess, he is expected to clean half of her mess up. Doesn’t sound like equality to me, more like slavery.

She has a child by another relationship and one with him, yet expects him to finance the whole family. From an equality point of view surely she should be financing half of all the family and take sole responsibility for her own child. Of course it wouldn’t occur to her that true equality would require her to take sole responsibility for the child she bought into the world. In fact she refuses to take responsibility for anything to do with the family and expect him to shoulder the lot. Yet she claims he's not pulling his weight.

The reality is that if she truly believed in equality she would be working the same hours, earning the same money and contributing the same money, time and effort to the family. But that would mean work, effort and true equality, on her part. It’s so much easier to claim to be a victim demanding equality while the reality is she's just being a parasite.

And there you have it, the face of true feminism.

But then, you already knew that didn’t you?