This was originally titled "Reasons you may need to change". As I got older, I realized that I didn't need to change. The world did.

For those reading: Thank you! Just knowing there are folks out there reading my stuff, makes me happy. Please keep in mind that when I wrote this, I was a lot younger than I am now. So there's tweaking that needs to be done, if I'm ever going to add this to a book or the likes of.

 

As I was sitting here thinking about previous relationships, these little key thoughts came into mind.

 

In my past experiences with relationships, I found that I got the same

 responses over and over again, on just why we were “breaking up”.

 

1.) We’re too different, but you’re still attractive.

Come on now, people…..Do you honestly think that line works?

If you don’t want something meaningful, say so. Don’t lead the

other person on, allowing them to believe that you truly care,

 when in reality, it’s just sheer and utter lust that they are after.

 

 

2.) I’m not happy anymore, but thought that in time, I would be.

 Oh really now? Well, you can’t force someone to be happy.

 If you are unhappy in your relationship, end it. Don’t continue

 something you are unsure of, even if you think things might

 work out in the end.

 

 

3.) I thought I loved you, but my feelings were wrong.

 Been there, done that, bought the sweat shirt. Again,

don’t lead someone on. If you are unsure of your feelings,

 make it clear that you need time to think. Usually, the

 outcome isn’t what you want, but what that other person

 may need.

 

 

4.) I never did really love you.

 If you never really loved me, then why did you say it in the

 first place? Don’t throw those words around as if they were

 confetti. A lot of people tend to do that, these days just to have

 a little bit of fun in their lives. I recently went through it and trust

 me, it hurt like hell. I still love that said person and it’s torture.

 If you are in a long-term relationship and you think it might go

 somewhere, let it flow….But, if you know you love them, but they

 have yet to say those words to you after about 6 months to a year,

 then they don’t love you. I’ve gathered all of this information from

 various places and people, and through my own experiences.

 I knew one person who was in a relationship for 3 years and their

 other half never said those 3 little words. I told him “If she hasn’t

 said them by now, then she doesn’t love you.” Plain, simple,

 hurts like a knife in your back, but, it’s truth. If they don’t know,

 then they don’t…..That’s the way I look at things. The reason this

 is titled “Reasons you should change”, is because if any of this

 applies to you, then you might have reason to think differently

 in your next encounter. I know I have to…….