Supporting Kavanaugh doesn't promote rape

Can I write freely for a moment? Can I just organize my thoughts, present it to you in a clear manner, without interruption, without judgment? Can I just be 100% real and not think of the consequences of stepping on anyones toes. Even though, some toes need stomped. So let me begin again..the right way.

I will write freely in this moment and from now on. I will organize my thoughts and present it to you in a clear manner in hopes to be respected and given the floor until all my points have been made. I will be continuously 100% on all matters and have no fear of the consequences. I will be me, unapologetically. If your easily triggered you may not want to read passed this point.

I have a story for you.

One day, I’m really not sure when, because it was so long ago, I had a terrible experience. One summer, I went to a small gathering. I cannot tell you where I was, or even how I got there, as all the details are fuzzy, except that one moment forever ingrained into my mind. I don’t even know how I manged to get home that night. While at the party, I was looking for a bathroom, when suddenly from behind, I was pushed into a room. Feeling disoriented from the unexpected shove, I had no time to respond and before I knew it, I was in a locked room with a man I had never expected. He pushed me onto the bed and tried to force himself on me. When I went to scream, he put his hand over my mouth. I was horrified. Thankfully, just as I thought, hes going to rape me, another man walks into the room. I took my attackers distraction of the door opening to push him off of me and run out of the room. Once safe, I hid in a bathroom until I was composed enough to leave without anyone noticing. This was 30+ years ago. I never told anyone. Finally, one day, in therapy it just came out. Like word vomit, it was like I had no control. Although, I clearly remember only having one beer that night, I couldn’t remember the details, like telling my therapist who my attacker even was. This attack on my body was also an attack on my mind. This encounter left me distrustful of men, being alone in a room with a man, confined spaces and it even affected my ability to get on an airplane. My whole life changed and I became this frail person finding it very hard to survive in a world where such a thing could happen to someone.

Although I never mentioned my attacker by name, I knew who he was immediately when I saw him on the local news. He was getting some big promotion at work. He’s been on the same career path his whole life. Because of his job, nothing is a secret. Once your name and face are recognized, people are always looking for anything to bring you down or unleash skeletons from your closet, anything for a story, anything for controversy, it sells after all. However, over the years, nothing like my story or worse, thankfully was ever reported. Almost everyone loves this man, vouches for his stellar reputation and respect for women. He has major endorsements which like his job, calls for vetting. He’s clean as a whistle, but I know my truth, even though some key details are lost, I know my truth. And I am at a loss on how to handle this situation. On one hand, this was a long time ago, we were minors and as I stated, nothing else credible has surfaced to help corroborate my story. None of my friends remember this party and say I never mentioned it to anyone. But I feel his promotion at work isn’t fair, I feel that if they knew what he did to me all those years ago, they would skip him over and maybe even fire him. He never did have to face what he did to me, so maybe his punishment is meant to come now, all these years later and even though I really cannot prove what happened, I still feel like I need to speak my truth and then let them decide. What do you think I should do?

Before you answer, I think I should tell you, the man who did this to me, was YOUR son. Or maybe I am confused on who he exactly is to you, could be that it was YOUR nephew, or YOUR brother. In this day and age its hard to tell, he could have been YOUR husband, maybe even YOUR dad! Tell me, what should I do?

If you can be honest with yourself and take out the fact this is really the first Kavanaugh accuser’s story and replace it as mine, claiming YOUR son, husband, father did this, would you still say FRY HIM, CASTRATE HIM, FIRE HIM, call him a RAPIST, all BEFORE ever facing any kind of due process?

You have to admit there are a lot of holes and inconsistent details in my story above.

There is an uprising in conversation about injustices in the criminal courts against minorities, especially blacks. Have you forgotten part of the kneeling is to address this very issue? As a minority or even someone you know who is in the minority would you accept this going in front of a jury 35 years ago? Or posted in the New York Times for all to see? Yet, some of you are really going to sit there and say you would allow this treatment today? The only way you are justifying this, is its a middle aged, white, male and a judge to boot, who is living through this hell right now. But something tells me if this was your son, you would be calling every Social Justice Warrior group, using every hashtag and setting up a gofundme account for his lost wages from the obvious smear campaign. You think the criminal courts are unfair, how unfair is the court of public opinion that you all seem to trust so much. As we have seen already, the story grows and is more embellished as its told to others. The loudest isn’t always the majority or always right. EVERYONE has an opinion but do you want that to dictate the outcome of your life or that of a loved one? You don’t even have to be a minority to see the seriousness of this issue. Without a criminal proceeding and 30+ years later, how do you think YOUR loved one would fair in this position? The very system that you say can’t be trusted. Little to no evidence and half the nation accepting and demanding consequences before a crime has even been established as true, credible and WITHOUT reasonable doubt. On top of that, your just a regular guy, no connections, and you have the people judging you this way, after all you worked so hard to achieve and become? Add being in the minority and ask how well your life would fair under these allegations and people demanding your head on a stick. There is a fair way to handle situations and I'm sure we all agree, we would want fair treatment for our loved one. Not mob rules. INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY. No matter their race, sexual orientation, where they live, who their parents are, or their political or religious beliefs, you would want a fair trial. You would want the evidence to speak, you would want a fair impartial jury hearing the facts and weighing the doubt. You would want sufficient evidence presented to even be charged! Yet, this man doesn’t deserve the same? I call BS!

I am so sick of hearing people say, if I stand with Kavanaugh, I am somehow FOR rape, and I disbelieve every rape victim out there. Don’t put that on me. I never said that. I haven’t read that or heard that from anyone. How dare you try and use this tactic to shame people for their beliefs. The only thing that has been stated and obviously, not enough, is FAIR TREATMENT. Acknowledgement of the facts and lack thereof. Lets also keep in mind, Kavanaugh was NOT accused of rape, but look how far it got through emotional response. Its a runaway train at this point.

To those who say, its not criminal, its a job interview. I say the same to you. Do you believe that the things you did in high school should have any bearing on a job, career, lifetime position? Let me take it a step further, would you want a one time action, something that was not a bearing on your overall behavior be the deciding factor in your future, 10 years later, 20 year later, almost 40 years later? You see I am giving the benefit of the doubt of lets say this is true. Yet, the reality of this, is the more that comes out, the less true it seems. So, I ask you, would you want a RUMOR that popped up out of the blue 30+ years old, decide your fate in life? Decide your job, your career, your lifetime appointment? What people thought of you? Would you be passionate in your response?

Lets not forget this absurd idea that his response to these life changing allegations, makes him unqualified. The man isn’t a robot. This isn't a court room as you all love to point out. It is however a serious allegation, that I would expect him to passionately deny. Judges have times worn their feelings on their sleeves and were still able to do their job. Still able to make a fair ruling based on the evidence. It took being drug through the mud world wide,as well as threats to his family to get a response that was emotional. I think we can give the man a break in that regard. Come on, life really is simple. Treat others the way you expect yourself and your loved one to be treated. This attack on people for standing up for Kavanaugh and the attack on him personally has gotten out of hand. Taking this to a level it doesn’t belong. I lost a friend over this nonsense because I said it was political. Because I dared to say out loud, a woman should not be believed simply because she claims to be a victim. Asking for a fair trial is not promoting or advocating rape. STOP IT WITH THAT ALREADY!!! And don’t think most of us are unaware of the bigger picture here and the stalling for the SCOTUS seat. But that's another story....