The Havamal: A Heathen Path of Living (Part 26)

47.

Young and alone on a long road,

Once I lost my way:

Rich I felt when I found a comrade;

For man is man’s delight.

This stanza discusses the concept of loneliness, something that is just as important today as it was in ancient Scandinavia. During the time that this stanza was written, it was very possible to be truly alone. Most people did not travel far from their home. Those that did, were at a risk of becoming lost with little chance of finding someone out in the wilderness. For those people, becoming lost and alone was a real risk of dying where no one could find you. Imagine how amazing it must have felt to wander lost and alone only to come across another person who could point you in the right direction!

But, even in modern America, loneliness has reached epidemic proportions though we are often surrounded by people. Loneliness is not only about being physically isolated, but it is also the perception of being alone. In fact, it is the perception that is more important than the actual lack of contact with other people. Loneliness is not just a mental condition, it can have serious physical health concerns including cardiovascular disease and stroke, increased stress, and alcohol and drug abuse. Severe cases of loneliness can lead to depression and, for some people. suicide. There is evidence to suggest that loneliness is becoming more common in the US. As a part of a questionnaire, in 1984 most respondents reported having three close confidants. In 2004, respondents to the same questionnaire reported most often that they had zero confidants. Psychologists believe that as few as three or four close friends are enough to fight off the effects of loneliness. Using some of guidance within the Havamal, one can find ways to make friends, build confidence, and fight off loneliness.