It's not all rainbows & unicorns

In this article, I'll discuss some statistically significant health and relationship issues concerning homosexuals, lesbians and transgenders.

Just to clarify, I would prefer not to use the term LGBT, as this is linked to a Marxist ideological exploitation of those groups. Lots of conservative, libertarian or non-political homosexual, lesbian and trans individuals are not represented by the LGBT movement, which pushes a very specific agenda. So when I use it, it's only as abbreviation without all the ideological baggage.

A major issue is partner abuse and relationship violence - based on the LGBT discourse, all problems are caused by men and "heterosexism", which is squarely contradicted by reality: gay, lesbian and trans individuals have at least as many, if not more issues in their relationships and far greater health issues that are completely unrelated to "society" or "the patriarchy".

As a baseline estimate, this meta-study found that abuse in same-sex relationships was at least as high as in heterosexual relationships:

Intimate Partner Abuse and Relationship Violence
https://libres.uncg.edu/ir/uncg/f/AK_Mobley_Same_2007.pdf

"Prevalence of Abuse in Same-Sex Intimate Relationships
Overall abuse prevalence. The existing statistical evidence indicates that IPV affects approximately one-quarter to one-half of all same-sex relationships (Alexander, 2002; Burke et al., 2002; McClennen, 2005; Pitt, 2000). These rates are similar to estimates of abuse in heterosexual relationships (Alexander, 2002; McClennen, 2005), suggesting that same-sex partners are abused about as often as heterosexual partners (Aulivola, 2004; Pitt, 2000; Potoczniak et al., 2003; West, 2002)."

That's fairly optimistic, as some studies found significantly higher abuse rates, especially among lesbians:

• In different studies, 24 to 90% of lesbians report being psychologically abused by their partners.
• 50% of lesbians have reported sexual abuse in a Harvard study

But let's take the baseline assumption that abusive relationship rates are at least equal to heterosexual relationships. So relationship issues in heterosexual couples are clearly not an issue of "toxic male behavior". Such problems are caused by the fact that living with someone else in a close relationship is always complicated and requires a lot of efforts on both sides to overcome individual psychological issues, differences in values, aspirations and life changes affecting one or both partners.

Trying to blame men - or women, for that matter - is simply immature and stupid. Trying to blame "the patriarchy" or "heterosexuality" is beyond stupid. It's absurd, grotesque nonsense, a demonstration of the complete absence of any kind of rational thinking. People are people.

Of course a person's sexual orientation can greatly impact a person's behavior and attitudes. Homosexuals generally do not plan for children and hence have a shorter time horizon. Keynes, who was homosexual, famously said "In the long run, we are all dead". But a heterosexual person does not see his own death as some ultimate end - fathers and mothers see their childrens' and grandchildrens' lives as a prolongation of their own - at least if they have a loving relationship (unlike Biden).

We can observe very different attitudes in childless politicians vs. politicians with children, irrespective of their sexual orientation. Merkel, Macron etc. vs Orban, who has a large family that seems central to his thinking. The immense majority of high ranking European politicians are childless, which largely explains extremely bad choices they keep making.

Homosexual men behave sexually exactly as men would behave with women, if women let them - i.e. with extreme promiscuity. Only a small percentage of women is extremely promiscuous and generally only for a short period of their lives.

Homosexual men change partners very frequently, often spontaneously and continue to do so even when they are in a committed relationship:

• In the Netherlands, the average homosexual in a "steady relationship" has seven to eight affairs per year.
• The average gay man has several dozen sex partners per year.
• 25% of gay men in America have had over 1000 sex partners.
• 43% of gay men have had over 500 partners (that includs the 25% above, obviously).
• 79% of homosexual men say that over half of their sex partners are strangers.
• Married homosexual couples are 50% more likely to divorce than straight couples.

Interestingly, associations of divorce lawyers heavily support gay marriage. Not the least bit opportunistic vultures, are they?

The promiscuity is the main cause of the very high rate of STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases), especially AIDS, among homosexuals, along with the fact that anal sex (if actually practiced, which is not always the case) represents a far greater risk factor than vaginal sex. Statistically speaking:

• Gay men, who are 1.65% of the US population, account for 63% of the country's syphilis cases.
• Gay men are 15 times more likely to have Hepatitis B
• Gay men are 60 times more likely to have HIV than straight men.
• Active homosexual men are 17 times more likely than straight people to have anal cancer.

The worst is that homosexual men all to often refuse to use protection even when they are perfectly aware of the risks. A few years ago, me and my ex met a female doctor in Madrid and had a very long chat with her. She mentioned, among others, that she had come to Madrid specifically for a conference about AIDS. One of her colleagues who had been at the conference with her then went out and had unprotected sex with several men, which was apparently a huge joke to him. Clearly, it is not about knowledge and education. This must be seen as intentionally self-destructive behavior.

"Transgenders" have even worse issues:

• 27% of male-to-female transsexuals test positive for HIV. Only 12% report it.
• Worldwide, MtF transsexuals are 50 times likely to have HIV than heterosexuals.
• 41% of transsexuals have tried and failed to commit suicide; neither "transitioning" by hormones or operation, nor "acceptance" by their social group changes anything about their psychological issues.
• 53% of mothers of allegedly transsexual children have Borderline Personality Disorder, which probably means that it is really the mothers who project their own psychological issues onto their children, while for adolescents, transgenderism is the fashionable way of dealing with psychological issues caused by such parents.

Sociallly and politically, male homosexuality has been acknowledged for most of recorded human history, but has been treated in extremely different ways, from complete rejection to complete normalization. In Acient Greece, it was accepted as normal for a grown man to have sex with an adolescent boy.

Islam is hypocrite about it. Sex with young boys is widely practiced, due to the fact that men have very little access to women in many Islamic countries such as Pakistan and Afghanistan, unless they are rich enough to get married. The most wealthy 20% of men in Islamic societies can monopolize access to 40 to 60% of all the women through legalized polygamy, concubines and sex slavery, which are acceptable under Islam. Mohammed had 12 wives and 13 permanent sex slaves - ignoring his own rules.

That leaves the other 80% of men with the remaining women, which means that 20% to 40% of the men will never have access to a woman in their entire lives. Except by capturing slave women. Promising slave women and sex in the afterlife was a particularly nasty trick Mohammed used to control his followers and make them go to war for him.

The way Muslim men cope with the absence of women is by construing the absurd claim that men who penetrate other men are not homosexual, only the one who is being penetrated - even against his will - is seen as such. Using young boys is tolerated. A famous example is the Afghan tradition of Bacha Bazi. The mental gymnastics are breathtaking...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bacha_bazi

Lesbian relations have occasionally been acknowledged, again prominently in Ancient Greece. The Isle Lesbos is the origin of the term "Lesbian" based on the writings of Sappho, a female poet who lived on the island of Lesbos. "Sapphic" is another term used to designate lesbian relationships. But generally, most societies ignored lesbian relations as irrelevant. Men generally don't feel threatened by them. Muslim rulers who kept entire harems of women guarded them with eunuchs (castrated men), but did not care what women did together, as it could not result in pregnancies.

Interpretation of these partnership issues

Here are 2 opposite views from one source that is anti-gay and another that is pro-gay:

Human Life International is openly anti-gay and tries to discourage male homosexual relationships:

"Is Homosexuality Really as Healthy as Heterosexuality?"
https://www.hli.org/resources/homosexuality-is-not-a-healthy-lifestyle/

Asking if homosexual relations are "healthy" is shooting fish in a barrel: no, it is not, for numerous reasons. But this will rarely "convince" a homosexual individual to not be homosexual, as they really don't have much control over their sexual orientation. One should, however, stop the promotion of homosexuality as a "lifestyle".

There should be no prosecution of homosexuals, they should receive psychological assistance if they need it, they should be acknowledged, they should be tolerated and any form of anti-gay violence or bullying should be condemned and prosecuted. But there should also be no indoctrination or promotion of homosexuality either. If someone is naturally inclined towards gay relationships, they will figure it out by themselves.

Gay "pride" is a monumental mistake - one can only be proud of a personal achievement. Being "proud" of one's sexual orientation is absurd. I understand that it is a reaction to the attempt of shaming homosexuals.

It's a very thin line to walk - condemnation, prosecution, bullying etc. are totally wrong and unacceptable, but apparently, societies always struggled with a balanced approach - they always err one way or the other.

Here is a pro-gay source confronting the data about abuse in lesbian relationships, as it simply cannot be ignored. It's really interesting how defensive they are and how they try to deal with information that radically goes against their ideological worldview. Their "myths" are only myths among those who live in this particular bubble:

"4 Myths About Intimate Partner Violence in Lesbian Relationships"
https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/11/myths-ipv-lesbian-relationships/

"Many people believe that because women are supposed to be caring and nurturing, they don’t behave violently in relationships, and that since they may be of relatively equal size and strength, there should be no way that one woman can truly dominate and abuse another woman.

People somehow believe that the physical similarities make the dynamics equal and therefore, completely ignore the numerous other factors that can create power imbalances."

It's fasicanting to see that they can actually acknowledge such simple facts within the context of lesbian relationships, but do not seem to be willing to do the same for heterosexual relationships, where women are just about as often the abusive partner as are men.

The major difference is that:

• abused men have a very hard time admitting the abuse
• when they do report it, they are often not taken seriously, especially when they are abused by a physically weaker woman
• psychological barriers against hitting women stop men from using force to protect themselves - and when they do, they end up being accused of abuse, even when their female partner initiated the violence
• when men use violence, it generally causes more damage, due to their greater physical strength
• women may use tools to cause more damage, but even when they do, the physical abuse is not acknowledged the same way
• women tend to use more psychological abuse, which doesn't mean that men don't, they just use it less often or are less subtle about it
• men and women simply adapt their strategy to their own strengths and weaknesses, be that in heterosexual or homosexual relationships; being a man or a woman says nothing about a person's character

There most definitely are differences in male and female behavior - largely driven by biological and mental differences - but power dynamics can still be very similar.

Again, the assumption that women are less violent, less dominant etc. is simply wrong. They are rational individuals with their own specific character, fully capable of choosing their own behavior based on their own psychological characteristics, including pathologies.

There's another point the article raises that is of interest:

"That said, lesbians have unique challenges to leaving abusive relationships that heterosexual women do not face.

Homophobia (in conjunction with heterosexism), for example, is a major societal barrier that doesn’t impact heterosexual women, but frequently prevents lesbians from seeking help"

Basically, they are complaining about the fact that lesbian women cannot just blame men, which is so easy in heterosexual relationships. One woman accusing another woman of abuse creates a situation that the very gynocentric society we now live in has a hard time dealing with.

But they still manage to blame "homophobia" and "heterosexism" for the fact that they can't blame men... the hypocrisy is baffling.

And yes, leftists will never miss a chance to blame "racism": 

"Leaving an abusive relationship can become even more difficult for lesbians of color who not only have to face the issues of sexism and homophobia, but also racism."

Don't blame the individuals who are having problems, blame it on "heterosexism" and "racism"... this tendency of always finding a scapegoat for individual problems is what I despise the most about leftist ideology.

One absolutely can blame specific laws, regulations, taxes etc. for the damage they cause, but one must be able to clearly identify such government-created issues. Blaming some vague social or cultural issue that generally cannot be substantiated in any way or that is even clearly contradicted by reality is weak.

While I'm at it, I won't miss the chance to kick the New York Times for another ridiculous propaganda piece that just makes them a total laughing stock:

Gay Couples Can Teach Straight People a Thing or Two About Arguing
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/01/parenting/relationship-advice-gay-straight.html

"Same-sex couples, on average, resolve conflict more constructively than different-sex couples, and with less animosity, studies have shown."

I have no idea in which ideological trash pile they found such "studies" - probably made up out of fairy dust. Even the most generous studies that are actually based on evidence do not support this ridiculous claim. No need to say more.

Conclusion

Sticking strictly to the relationship and health issus, the major conclusion to be drawn from all this information is that "the problem" are not "heterosexual men". Relationship issues are a human problem, not a male/female or sexual orientation issue. Some men and some women are just seriously damaged and cause harm to other people, including in intimiate personal relationships. Change can only occur at the individual level.

Homosexuality, lesbianism and transgenderism do not make people "better" than the average heterosexual man or woman. Their relationship issues are at least comparable, if not worse. Their sexual behavior is clearly problematic and causes greater health issues, but that does not seem to be "fixable". It is inherent in their specific psychological incentives and constraints.

Chances are that this point in the history of western society is a high point for the LGBT movement and that they are in a process of self-destruction by simultaneously alienating the majority population in their own countries through excessive and absurd demands, while allying with individuals from cultures and ideologies that are openly hostile to their cause.