A ‘frame’ is a structure that underlies or supports a system, concept, text...or MINDSET. Regulating mindset is ‘frame control.’ Mindful focus + confident, self- awareness= frame control. Achieve ‘mindful focus' with goal setting and daily planning. Then focus on the moment and trust you're subconscious to guide you. Achieve 'confident self- awareness' by knowing yourself. Learn your strengths and weaknesses. Become comfortable in your skin and see failure as opportunity. Then, you can be kind instead of vindictive, calm instead of angry, & generous instead of needy. As others get emotional over trivial events, you can stay calm and logical. Stay cool, calm, collected, and focused. Life will be more fun.

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