Many do not respect a pushover, but no one respects a SIMP. Dating before the pandemic was insane. Social media, and dating apps, distorted expectations and wreaked havoc on what was a fairly simple process. 15 years ago it was fairly simple. Ask someone out, grab a coffee/meal, get to know each other, then take things from there.... Now... Fuck! It's a minefield, and to be honest, at times, the juice ain't worth the squeeze. As a guy whose mid to late 30s, I feel sorry for those who are in their 20s, male and female. Dating and the social dynamic between men and women has become distorted. What was a simple act is now a crazy minefield. Take a wrong turn, and make one mistake, boom, its splattered all over social media. Pick the wrong woman to ask out, bang, you're a creep in her eyes or she's made a false accusation about you and your life is now in the gutter. Guys can be afraid to approach women in case of a spiteful accusation, some women struggle to find a 'decent' bloke because they are surrounded by orbiters/white knights. It's nuts and I don't see things improving anytime soon. White Knights creep everyone out regardless of era! I've noticed an explosion of them, and so-called "nice guys" who have the social skills of a baboon tripping on bath salts. You gotta have some self-respect if she ain't into you then move on. It's easier said than done but you can do it. Don't creep them out. Don't shower them with gifts, just grow a backbone and move on. Why an explosion of them? I have a theory, I think a lot of it is down to a lack of a strong male role model, I am not talking about he-man, but older guys who can inspire those around them, not with BS but with life experience and wisdom. Stoicism was taught to me when I was an 18 year soldier but a man in his 50's. It's knowledge is something I carry with me to this day. Another reason could be 'social media' where before you'd have time to think about your emotions, now you can instantly blurt them out with no filter. Regardless of the causes, you need to have some self-respect. You don't need to confront everyone, but don't be a pushover, nor be a creepy stalker. Learn to 'read the room' if she ain't into you then just move on. Don't stroke their ego, don't shower them with gifts, just move on with your day and focus on improving yourself and enjoying your hobbies. Attraction is a whole other topic, one for another day. But often works with self-improvement, having hobbies, having people skills, improving the way you present yourself and your interpersonal skills. Something that would probably take a while to explain. Needless to say. Whatever you do, do not be a White Nigh or a shity Simp! Anyway my 2c.
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