What can you see?
10 Year Challenge
At first, when this challenge came out. I felt skeptical and didn't want to be a part of it. But eventually I decided to post my own picture of when I was still in university with my recent picture.
However, I also learned that some people eventually came out with many ideas and warnings that this challenge is just some sort of scheme from Facebook and whatever sources that would like to accumulate and collect our data. I haven't read and gathered much of data so I believe if anyone reading this may already stumble upon those feeds and news.
As true as it may sound, I decided to just leave it be. I don't care about data breaching over my face recognition since I dare say that I looked pretty much the same as 10 years ago. And nothing to brag about it as many people most likely be the same.
Also, I think rather than worried about such a small problem that can be prevented by checking your privacy from time to time and/or just deactivate, tracking your own account and delete all your online data across the internet. Why not just start from today onward to be more cautious about how you post and use your social media and other platforms you are working or using?
But what I would like to share today is not about those things.
My question : 'What can you see today comparing to 10 years ago?'
The picture of the heart 10 years ago and today which I posted as headline of this blog is what I have found on my Facebook.
Many would interpret this differently. I can see some of them interpreted that their heart was changed to stone due to their past experiences of being betrayed. Some interpreted that it was harden due to they have become stronger.
But for me... At first glance it struck me as how love has become colder until it is no longer what love is anymore. I posted on my personal Facebook that according to Matthew 24:12 (CEV) Evil will spread and cause many people to stop loving others.
I agree with it immediately.
Whatever reason do we have for our harden heart. One of those reasons should not be that we are loveless, but in a sense I know, even I am struggling with 'to stop loving others altogether' or 'just keep moving on with love'.
Because it is really hard nowadays for people to truly understand what love really is.
What I see from this picture is love has become lifeless in its own meaning. People will proclaim they know love but only a few would truly be able to show it as it is.
We love not that we are lovely but we love because we are loved without condition.
Love is meaningful; full of life in itself, it doesn't become just 'word' but Love is a living invisible force that drives people to live, to give and to sacrifice for others.
But in these days, I can see people start to say about self-love. But how many people truly grasp the meaning of what self-love is?
I believe people will say that self-love is self-care and self-respect. But what I can see these day when people start to say they are practicing self-love. I see only people who are selfishly practicing self-absorption. How so?
First of all, they got it all wrong. When self-love might help me to respect and esteem myself more. I have to find out the cause of why do I have to respect and esteem myself first. It means I have to go backward to my past pains before I can go forward and change my future.
But what people are doing nowadays - and I do not mean all of them - just some who do not grasp the full meaning of self-respect and self-esteem. They have forgotten to first understand their true identity before they begin moving forward to their new goals.
They forgot that the drive to move forward is not because they were betrayed by people whom they loved. While I can see that many people who are able to practice self-love maybe successful in life. I can also see that some may still get lost.
They started to live a double life and they compromise their heart that love is not necessary. That love is okay with being dishonest or hurt others. All the while proclaiming they love their loved ones.
Love is when you are patient, kind, honest, forgiving one another, respect and honor each other. Love means they will promise to stay true to only one person that they have vowed to
In my personal opinion, I do not agree with open-relationship between partners but especially between marriage couples.
For me, if there is any possibility for couples to want to have open-relationship. I can only see that they do not have satisfaction in marriage life anymore. I have never married and I have no place to judge other's love life. But there is a saying 'Two people who break up could never be friends. If they can stay friends, then it means that they are still in love or that they never were'
I think if you start to develop your love interest in another person that is not your spouse - whether you didn't love your spouse at all or maybe you have stopped loving him/her already.
It doesn't mean I am ignorant to the fact that behind those closed doors of others' love life I do not have any authority to judge them when I do not know what they are dealing with.
What I am trying to say is 'how you deal with it before you start developing new relationship'
Because in order to start a new relationship. You have to end the one you are having first. You cannot drag your old baggage with new one. You will have to choose between it. #choice
And love is not a game or sport in which you can switch to any new one you want but still keep the old one just for the fun of it.
I believe and vow to myself that my love is solely for one person at a time.
If I love - I don't have a spare. I don't have two or three people just to make sure I have enough to choose in the future. I'd prefer to date one by one.
If I choose anyone. They are not candidate. They are my choice - one and only. The others that may also be there at the same time will only be friend or they will have to go away. This is my badge of honor I am still holding on.
Stupid or not. I will not change this part about myself. Even if I will end up being alone for the rest of my life. I do not care. Because love for me is not a game of dating.