Ok feminists, you're drunk... go home!

Seriously feminists are you trying to ruin things for the rest of us? I think it's high time for you to go home, sober up, take your baby pants off,  have a long hard look at yourselves and do some soul searching. Maybe once you've done that you might be able to find your big girl pants, put those on and come join the real world acting like a grown-up who takes responsibility for her own actions. 

I daresay it's a big ask, so I'll give you a few pointers.

1. Being an adult means taking responsibility for your own actions and choices in life; not running to Daddy aka the government or nearest willing white knight to sort your problems out for you. Be the strong, independent woman you keep ranting about.

- Struggling to get a well paid job? 

Is the patriarchy keeping you down? All those privileged men getting in your way? Answer = No.

Did you study hard at school? Did you study a useful degree or trade that would lead to a successful, well paying career? Probably not. Gender, women's studies or similar is not useful to anybody. Identity politics, victim hierarchies - all useless.

Kindly get out off the way of those of us who did study something useful, who have the brains and drive to keep up with the men in the workplace, who don't need, or want, hiring quotas to make it. Please don't lump us all in with your inadequacies or poor life choices. You make us look bad.

Never fear though, it's not too late to correct this error in life choices; and no it's not by attacking some poor sod in management or HR. It's by going back to school or taking a course in something useful that has career prospects and decent earning power. Every day is a school day. All it requires is for you to take responsibility for your own destiny and work hard. Success requires hard work.

- Getting cat called in the street? Seriously, you have a problem with this to such a degree you need laws to protect your fragile feelings... really?

Words aren't violence - except in emotionally abusive relationships; even then it depends somewhat on the definition of violence. Catcalling is not sexual harassment. If anything it's a complement - treat it as such. Remember, you are not a weak victim. You are a strong independent woman who doesn't need no man.

If you do find it distasteful either ignore it or shoot back a retort of your own. No harm, no foul. No one was harmed in the making of this back and forth of words.

As a general note this also works well with internet trolls or people who disagree with you. Plus if you can't be arsed arguing or retorting use the block button; it's rather handy - though it does have the drawback of stifling discussion and debate.

Free speech should be maintained. Debate allows good ideas to flourish and bad ones to shrink away and die. Or at least it should - though some really bad / stupid ideas are stubbornly refusing to go away and die.

2. The vast majority of men are good people, who deserve to be treated with respect. Just as you do. Golden rule - treat others as you would like to be treated.

Don't assume the worst of everything a man says. Start with face value and if you think they mean something else chances are they don't, but at least clarify your understanding before you go on the attack.

Men aren't like women, they usually say what they mean.

If anything, feminists are endeavoring to climb into bed with dangerous men. I refer, of course to Muslim men, the majority of them, rather than the minority, as of course there are always exceptions, who embrace the freedom of western values. 

And before you start out with calls of racist and islamophobe let me head you off there.

Islam is not a race, therefore it's not racist.

I am not irrationally afraid of the Islamic faith, as a woman I have a good reason  to be. The evidence is in the Koran, by their very actions and attitudes. Here I cite the Rotherham child abuse scandal and new year in Cologne, Germany as two examples of many. They do not value Western women, they view us as free whores to be used for their pleasure and discarded. Islam is not a feminist religion it is the complete opposite of female friendly or female centred. If you're looking for a patriarchy to fight it's staring you right in the face.

If you embrace the tenants of Islam so much, kindly marry a Muslim man and submit to him but don't impose it on the rest of us.

I know I, for one, value being able to earn my own money and do my own thing, wear what I want and go where I want without having to ask anyone's permission. A hijab and niquab would really hinder my work. Plus bacon; there is no way I'd give up bacon.

I daresay I have more but this current blog has gotten long enough. I'll finish by saying: this world has enough pain and problems all on it's own without you inventing new, non-existent ones. If you truly want to make the world a better place why don't you channel your energies into something positive? Volunteer your time to help others or the environment. Loneliness is a major issue that has featured in the news recently, perhaps you could help someone with that.

Stop looking so hard for things to be offended at. It only upsets you at the end of the day.