Do You Hate Making Mistakes? There’s an Important Reason For That

A mistake is a creation of hindsight. In effect, there really is no such thing as a mistake!

Whatever action you did was the only one possible for YOU at the time - that's why you did it! Looking back with hindsight from a better vantage point of improved knowledge and experience, it is easy to berate yourself, and feel badly, for what happened. But how were you to know otherwise, without the necessary experience? If you hate making mistakes you are unlikely to be an inventor, scientist, or entrepreneur, because any mistake is a form of trial and error which gradually leads to the desired outcome.

It is our desire for perfection why we see a past action as inadequate compared to the present, when ALL actions are part of our development and growth, and teach us something new. Without any mistakes we would not learn the difference between what is appropriate and what is not, or what works and what doesn't. It is only in our modern world where we get hung up on mistakes. But up to a century ago, before we had this shiny technologically accomplished world, mistakes were taken as given, part and parcel of living, because that was the only way people could learn about their world or invent new things: through trial and error. Sadly, now that we are the beneficiaries of numerous inventions that some people even paid for with their lives, we want a perfect world without 'mistakes'.

But, sadly, the more they try not to make mistakes, the more anxious they will get and, ipso facto, the more mistakes they'll make! It's a demoralising negative circle.

As to a 'mistake' itself, there are six factors why anyone would make a 'mistake', or do something inappropriate. It is usually because they lack the confidence, knowledge, information, resources, training and/or, above all, the maturity, to deal with a particular situation. They have to act from their limited base of awareness, mainly on instincts, only to find out later on that such action was not adequate. But that was part of their essential learning process, and when anyone denies mistakes, or focuses on them too negatively, they simply limit their progression.

Worse still, they are usually left with a feeling of inadequacy and doubt about their capabilities, which then erodes personal self-confidence and self-esteem. That is why the people who tend to make mistakes are perfectionists who try their hardest to avoid them, and who lack the confidence to act any differently. But, sadly, the more they try not to make mistakes, the more anxious they will get and, ipso facto, the more mistakes they'll make! It's a demoralising negative circle.

Making mistakes are often important markers on our journey. While we hope that we don't make too many, they facilitate our development and form a key part of our learning. Best to just accept them as a necessary part of life, because making mistakes is quite natural. What is much worse is when we fail to learn from them.

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