Building a new attitude about abortions

   Everything in society is connected. We cannot talk about one issue, without it bleeding into another. So, where is a good place to start? For me, I think we need to discuss life! Its the foundation of our existence. Everything we do, everything we are, starts with our ability to be born into this world. We all start, hopefully, as a positive thought. A man and woman marry/commit, then generally nine months later, the newlyweds are now parents. Most of the time, we would like to believe, most babies come from two people who love each other and wanted to start a family. However, this is not the only reality.

We have a single mother epidemic that is now spreading into all cultures, races and walks of life. We’ve had a teen pregnancy crisis and we have a backlogged family court for child support. Married/attached women who want a baby are not the only women getting pregnant. In a world that has to be shared with the bad guy, bad things happen. Rape is a brutal act on a person to gain control over them and to humiliate them, and for a woman, can ultimately end with the her pregnant. Incest is a terrible act that starts with grooming. Too many times it has been reported that some maniac pedophile was raping some poor girl or boy. Usually family but we also see friends of family or trusted authority figures take advantage of our children. In a few cases girls as young as eight, were impregnated by their abuser. There are truly awful people in this world. Not all pregnancies are welcomed because the circumstances of the pregnancy were anything but normal, created out of a violent act in which they had absolutely no control over. However, there is an entirely different group of women, becoming pregnant, through consensual/legal sex. As a matter of fact, its been published that 96% of abortion services are for this group of women. These women were not raped or victims of incest. According to www.guttmacher.org in 2008 48% of these womens birth control failed, down from 51% in 2001. This makes up 48% of abortions of the 96% who obtain those services for other than rape/incest/medical reasons. Which still leaves 48% of abortions done for other reasons than failed contraceptives. About 2-4% of abortions are done due to rape or emergency medical issues. There are numbers upon numbers, breakdowns upon breakdowns. But this is the numbers in its simplest forms. Also to be noted, these figures were based on a womans first year on contraceptives.

Here is where the problem lies. Here is where the line in the sand has been drawn. What options are available to women who do not wish to become pregnant but do for reasons other than rape/failed contraceptives? After-all, most pro choice advocates, only talk about the 4%. They do this to manipulate emotionally. They amp up the worse case scenario, making one think this is the group using theses services the most. They do this to distract you from the other 48% who are not using any form of birth control at all. Giving fairness to the numbers that the other 48% are actually using birth control correctly. We need to start talking about this high percentage of women using abortion as a form of birth control. The very women keeping abortion clinics open.

Now, let me just say right now, I used to be very, very pro choice. My whole life until just recently as a matter of fact. When I was 15 or 16, I wrote a letter to the editor of my local paper, which was published, complaining about pro life people and how they choose to protest. I argued that those people infringed on my right to drive or walk down the street. At 16, to see aborted babies on life sized posters for all to see, really affected me. Even then, I understood what abortion was but I thought the point could be made without the gross pictures. I believed every woman had a choice and that choice shouldn't be posted publicly for me to see. All I could think when I saw the photos was, what had I done to deserve to be subjected to such an awful thing, so unexpectedly. If anything the photos pushed me further away from the pro life movement.

At 17, I missed my period and for whatever reason, I didn’t go to my mother with this information. I told my boyfriend at the time and he took me to a crisis pregnancy center. While there, I had to have counseling. A brief discussion with the worker and watch an informative video. One of the questions asked of me was, do I believed in abortion. I told the woman that I believed every woman has a choice and that although I would not choose abortion for myself, I would never tell another woman what she should do. Next thing I know, I am in a room by myself, watching an informative video. The video was all about abortion. The video, showed aborted babies in trash cans. Here I was waiting to find out if I'm pregnant, have already stated, I was not interested in abortion, but now I was being forced to watch this horrible video on abortion. I was again, completely turned off by the pro life movement. I screamed at the worker. I asked her why she would sit me in a room by myself to watch such a horrible video. Her response was, I came to them for a free pregnancy test, the least I could do was watch their video. I found out that day I was indeed pregnant.

Fast forward a year later, my boyfriend and I were married at this point. I again, miss a period. My husband suggests to go to the crisis pregnancy center again to find out if I was pregnant. The center was a fast option compared to an all-day wait at the clinic. I told my husband we could go there but I was going to let them know, I will not be watching any abortion videos. If there was a video to be seen, I hoped they would have a different one or I would seriously consider the option to walk the hell out. We go to the center; I again, had to go through the counseling and again I am asked my stance on abortion. I tell the woman, I am not planning to abort my baby if I am pregnant and that I will not watch their abortion video again. I told her it was rude and devastating to be without warning made to watch such a vile piece of video. She assured me that they had no such video. She tells me I will be fine and that its the least I can do to watch the video for a free pregnancy test. I went into the room, again, alone. The video begins to play. It was the same damn video! I got up, went over to the tv, and turned it off. I sat back down and waited for the woman to come get me from the room. I went off! I told the woman that she lied to me and once again, I was forced to watch something I did not want to see nor was ready or prepared to see. The woman apologized and gave me my results that I was once again pregnant.

Not only was I extremely pro choice, but the CPC left a bad taste in my mouth. Yet, today, I would suggest a Crisis Pregnancy Center over Planned Parenthood any day of the week. I would just advice they be more honest in their truth on abortions ahead of time. I tell you this to show I am not speaking from an ignorant place. I am speaking to my own experiences. I want you to see how heavily rooted in my position I was.

So what changed? Knowledge, age, and the biggest one being there are so many more options today, than 25, 35, 50 years ago. When I think of how we can improve as a nation, I believe more abortions, are not what is going to do that. Its LIFE. Its the very miracle that keeps us going on this planet. Its the foundation of family, community, future populations and what most people were designed to do, procreate. Yet, there is a huge divide in the country and around the world on the right to abort a baby.

As I mentioned at the top of this article, everything is connected. To talk about one thing can easily carry over into another. Its hard to discuss this without going into other things. Lets first get the two arguments out of the way.

Pro choice advocates heavily rely on, my body, my choice. The first argument is always, “you can’t and shouldn’t tell a woman what she can and cannot do with her body.” The reason for an abortion is no ones business. Then the pulling at heart strings with, “what if a woman or girl is raped? How dare you force a young girl or woman to carry around a rapists baby!” When that doesn’t work, they move to the “well, do you plan on help taking care of this baby once hes born?” The argument then shifts to defending an abortion because the family might not be financially equip to raise a child. Another point they make is for women who are against any form of birth control. Last and certainly not least, women are now prescribing to the idea of, if abortions are somehow made illegal, these poor women will have no choice but to get a back alley abortion that might leave them scarred, unable to have children later or could kill her.

Lets now look at the side of pro lifers. My body, my choice counts for your baby too. A womans abortion is our business when they are asking their government and their employers to pay for them. Its not the babies fault if you were raped. Would you also condone having the baby but once the child reaches age 3 decide, you don’t want this child anymore and kill him or her because they were conceived in such a violent manner? If its OK to kill the baby in the womb because hes a product of rape, once the child is born, hes still a product of rape. When confronting the financial aspect of these children's birth, pro lifers will say, “if you cannot afford to be be parents, there are plenty of families who can; put your baby up for adoption.” Then of course there is the mindset if you don’t want a baby, can’t afford a baby, then refrain from sex or use at least 2 different forms of birth control to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. Women who are opposed to any form of birth control should be equally opposed to abortions. So, in a nutshell, we have the basic points both sides make for their argument of for or against abortions. Of course, I am sure I can find many more points made by either side. For the sake of this article not turning into a book, we will just work with the ones mentioned above.

I can see both sides as I have mentioned, I haven’t been pro life until more recently. I will try hard to stay fair here but keep in mind, I am pro life. I won’t keep that a secret. But lets try to get through this together. In speaking of terms of making this Nation great again and making choices that will keep America great, I believe we can absolutely change how this country views abortions. One of the few things former President Bill Clinton said that I agree with, is that “Abortions should be safe, legal and rare.” Unfortunately, rare is no longer applicable when speaking of abortions. We now have women shouting their abortions from roof tops, posting them on-line and using their stories to further the movement of legal abortions and to rid women of feeling shame for the choice. The black population is just 13%, which we can agree, in 2018, should be much higher; yet, with Planned Parenthoods help, according to www.rtl.org 900 black babies are aborted everyday in this country. In 365 days, that is 328,500 aborted African American babies. That is just the numbers for one ethnic group, ONE!

Excuse me for saying but over 300,000 abortions in just the African American community alone doesn’t sound like a great America to me. Can you imagine what the total number daily is? I tried to find the stats on this and it wasn’t as easy as finding the stats on the black population. The numbers are broken down, instead of just a base number to go by. According to worldwide statistics, 125,000 babies are aborted daily. That adds up to 45,625,000 babies a year worldwide, killed by abortions. Now, we can’t go speaking for other countries, however, we can be a great example to others in how we handle unwanted pregnancies.

First, let me be clear, I do not think abortion should be illegal. I believe our attitudes towards our body, the respect we have for ourselves and of course the appreciation for our own lives, is where we need to do better. In order to bring about change, bring to the surface “be better” we have to have a starting point. All things come in due time.

Making changes today will reinforce better habit tomorrow. We need a different goal. The fight over legal abortions is over. Despite what your being spoon fed by the media, one man on the Supreme Court can’t change, over rule, ignore, overturn Roe V Wade. Maybe one day that case will find a way to be heard again. In the meantime, what I do know, is the SCOTUS interprets law, they don’t change law. For any case to go before the SCOTUS, it has to be brought there by someone. The lawyer and plaintiff in the case would be the one to bring the case to the Court. To interpret a law, not to change a law. Its not like Justice Kavanaugh can say, hey fellow Justices, I want to change Roe V Wade today. That is not how that works. SCOTUS has no control over any laws. One more time for the people in the back, the SCOTUS interprets law, they do not make law. Our Congress, makes laws.

To be fair, lets consider the possibility. Well, it didn’t happen today, its not likely to happen tomorrow, no one can predict future events, so lets focus on the present. Right now, abortions are legal but they are not rare! How about we start focusing on why its not rare, rather than fight over what is already done and decided? This is for both sides. In anything that involves large populations of people, there has to be, needs to be, compromise. Both sides need to accept what is, to a degree.

We cannot ignore that people have many different views on when life even begins. Some say at conception, others say at birth. Then there are all the others in between. My personal belief is if I had to decide when it is no longer appropriate to perform an abortion, I say first, that's a heavy burden to decide. However, I did say abortions should be legal, therefore I must have some idea of when this procedure should be allowed and no longer allowed as well. In my opinion women should loose the ability to choose an elective abortion at 10 weeks. In the same breath I will mention, I do not believe every woman should have the abortion option.

We can find compromise in almost every area but certainly everyone still won’t be happy. If we conclude both sides really don’t want abortions but half just want the option available; this is a good place to start. I used 10 weeks as the cut off for what I feel are important reasons. First, I did take the mother into consideration first. I understand some women do not find out right away that they are pregnant. It would seem reasonable most women are aware by eight or nine weeks. The standard is normally the first missed period. This gives the woman up to seven weeks or as little as one week. You may find this to be too short of a window. This is where I would kindly tell you, these things should already be worked out before sex. This conversation should be updated throughout the relationship.

At ten weeks, the baby is the size of a prune, and is officially a fetus. He will start building bones and cartilage. Little teeth are starting to form. At this stage in a pregnancy, its time to stop thinking about abortion and start thinking about birth. The longer we allow a child to develop before aborting, the more inhumane we are as a society. Just because you cannot feel the babies pain, does not mean, the baby doesn’t feel his life being taken from him, in a horrifying and painful manner. In my opinion, most people who believe in abortion, more specifically, late term abortions, do not have to feel the pain, therefore, feel it must not exist. How could anyone have a baby ripped from their body and brutalized in this fashion and think to themselves, “my baby isn’t feeling anything.” These women lie to themselves very well to think a baby at 10 weeks or older does not feel pain when being killed. Its that, or these people really do not care about what the baby is feeling. Then again, these same people have convinced themselves their baby isn’t a baby at all, but a lump of cells. With that mindset, its no wonder these people do not think their unborn baby has feelings.

So, lets just all take a second and start at the 10 week marker. I know many of you will not be satisfied until abortions are illegal, but bare with me through this a little bit longer. Now that we have established a time-line, its time to advocate and fight for the cut off on elective abortions at 10 weeks. At this point, any facility that performs abortions beyond the 10 week mark, yes, pro lifers should organize and protest at these facilities. Until every state concludes elective abortions after 10 weeks is illegal, pro life organizers should focus on the clinics/ Dr offices in states where an abortion can happen after 10 weeks. Yes, the goal is to be pro life but to get there, we need to start somewhere. In one state, it is legal to get an abortion all the way to the day before the due date. That is disgusting. Any state with late term abortion rights is where all the pro lifers should organize and protest and educate the community, continuously.

As I mentioned, I do not believe every woman should be able to walk into a Dr office and ask for an abortion. Doctors swear to the Hippocratic Oath. The Oath used to include not giving anyone medicine that can kill a patient and not giving a woman an abortion. The updated Oath from 1964 does not include abortions anymore. We still need to talk about why it was there to begin with. Doctors take an oath to save lives. The original oath reads, “I will neither give a deadly drug to anybody who asked for it, nor will I make a suggestion to this effect. Similarly I will not give to a woman an abortive remedy. In purity and holiness I will guard my life and my art.” The updated version of the Oath on abortions is as follows..”I will respect the privacy of my patients, for their problems are not disclosed to me that the world may know. Most especially must I tread with care in matters of life and death. If it is given me to save a life, all thanks. But it may also be within my power to take a life; this awesome responsibility must be faced with great humbleness and awareness of my own frailty. Above all, I must not play at God.”

The Oath was changed not only to support abortions but to support the right to die on our own terms. If we are diagnosed with a painful debilitating disease to which there is no cure, I believe a person should have the right to ask their doctor for medicines that will put them out of unnecessary misery. We all should have the right to choose a painless and quick death vs staying alive and suffering and as well, putting our family into debt. However, there is a stark difference between these two procedures. On one hand, the person who wants to end their life, ask for it. On the other, the unborn child has no voice in what happens to them.

Just as there is a place for a person to ask their doctor for life ending medication, there are factors that need considered. Not just anyone can say, “Hey Doc, I'm feeling bored in my life, have felt this way for over 10 years and just want to end it all already.” A good doctor and good laws will stop this person from making such a rash decision. Abortions should be no different. There has to be a damn good reason, for a doctor to end a life before its even had a chance to thrive and flourish. Just the same as we wouldn’t allow for a Doctor to give a healthy individual assisted suicide drugs, we should have factors in place before a doctor can just give any woman off the street an abortion. Most scenarios are roughly the same. Again, we are talking about 96% of all abortions, half of those to which claim using some form of birth control and it failing. Again, giving credit to this statistic as factual. Unless a woman is under direct care of a physician, it really is hard to say if most of those women were in fact using birth control. Even then, its still hard. A doctor can prescribe birth control options but if used incorrectly or not used at all, the risk of pregnancy increases. We cannot say for absolute all those women were telling the truth. But for the sake of the statistic, we will agree that 48% of women use birth control but for many reasons it failed.

Lets look at reasons why a contraceptive would fail. Some women as good as they try to be on taking medicines, sometimes forget. If you are a woman who hates taking pills or cannot remember to always take medications, then the birth control pill is most likely not for you. Women need to own who they are and what they want out of life. We need to make choices that match our goals. If you believe life is precious, if you believe this is not the right time to have a baby, make choices that reflect that decision. There are many forms of birth control that cater to almost every type of woman. I personally, used birth control pills as a teenager and found that I was not the best at keeping up with taking them. Shortly after giving birth to my second child, I opted for the depo shot, so that I would not have to remember taking a pill everyday. At one point, I was in a relationship with a man who could not have children, so I chose to stop taking birth control. After having four children, three of which who weighed in over 10lbs, my body said no more. It was at that point, I chose to get my tubes tied. Even though my Doctor wanted to see how big I could make another baby, he gave me the surgery I asked for.

For some women the depo shot is a good alternative. I know some who have used the patch. Other women have used other forms of contraceptives like the implant. A small incision is made and the implant inserted into the arm. Others are more comfortable with IUDs. There are many ways of stopping our bodies from reproducing before we are ready. There is even the morning after pill for those unexpected encounters.

Sometimes finding the right contraceptive doesn’t happen before a woman becomes pregnant. Lets talk about this for a moment. This clearly falls under failed contraceptives. If a woman is on birth control for over a month, her body doesn’t respond and she is able to become pregnant, that is a failed plan of action. If a woman is asking her Dr. for contraceptives and it fails, that doctor should be able to perform an abortion for that woman. Some may call that a miracle baby who should have the right to live but the mother-to-be didn’t intend on being a mother and took steps to avoid it. Therefore, what she and her doctor decide, based on the Oath, is allowed but is also private. It of course will be in the woman's medical records, but remains no one else’s business, unless she tells someone. This woman is obviously not using an abortion as birth control. For 48% of abortions being for failed contraceptive, we need to better educate men and women alike on proper use and adding another form of protection, like a condom. Birth control works, once you find what plan of action works best with your habits and body. Sometimes a contraceptive fails over time, these women as well, should be able to ask their doctor for an abortion. Hopefully, we gain momentum by properly educating couples on the choices they have and which works best. The goal should be to bring the number of abortions through failed contraception down to a very low number. This can only happen if women and men alike are aware of their options and how to use them correctly. I find this number of 48% to be ridiculously high. We can do better. There are even tests that women can take to tell them when they are ovulating. Most women trying to get pregnant use these tests. There is no reason why women who do not want to get pregnant can’t use this very test to know when to avoid sexual intercourse. We can do better. We really need a different outlook on the choices we make and focus on prevention. A woman using condoms and another form of birth control simultaneously has far less of a chance of getting pregnant. Understand that the first year of birth control can be the trickiest.

Its this last 48% of women I have the biggest problem with. The 48% who wanted abortion services not for failed contraceptives, not due to a rape or medical emergency but elective abortions based on no other reasoning than having unprotected sex. These are the women that really need to get their life together. These are the women that make up almost half of abortion services. They either don’t believe in birth control or simply feel that its their right to get pregnant and use an abortion service. Some women go all extreme and will threaten their own lives for the sake of abortions. Women have started talking about using unconventional remedies or back ally abortion options if legal abortions were no longer available. There are actual women who instead of being abstinent, using condoms along with or using birth control would rather get a back alley abortion or pour liquid tide up her vagina. What is wrong with these women? Why is that even an option worth even a second of consideration over abstinence or contraceptives? Mind you, I am not trying to imply this 48% are the carriers alone of this attitude. I’m sure women across the pro choice board may have these beliefs. As far as I am concerned and call me heartless, but if these women would ever consider subjecting themselves to the disgusting list of ways to kill their unborn child, whatever happens, happens. Don’t want to die from a botched abortion? Simple, if abortion is not an option for you for whatever reason, best to take precautions. This is where my pro life side takes over and I cannot be at all sympathetic to a woman's accidental/I didn't think I could get pregnant pregnancy in 2018.

The fact that having sex can create a child is missed on some folk in 2018 is mind boggling. When two people have sex, medically, the expected result is a pregnancy. When a woman needs an abortion but wasn’t on any birth control, it begs the question: How did you not think having sex could result in pregnancy? Why is an abortion such an easy place to go and call a solution? The solution is in not engaging in the very act of procreation, if you do not want to procreate. However, sex is important to relationships on many different levels, so in order not to get pregnant every time you want to have sex, the smart, obvious solution is birth control. Some say the fight is in the cost of the contraceptive. To this I ask you, are you just willing to put abortion money aside for a rainy day but not look into a long term solution to avoid a pregnancy altogether?

According to the article https://www.thestranger.com/back-to-school-2016/2016/09/19/24565047/where-to-get-birth-control-or-an-abortion-and-how-much-it-costs “Depending on how long you've been pregnant and which type of procedure is best, an abortion can start around $600. Don't panic. If you qualify for Washington's state health insurance program (called Medicaid or Apple Health), that program covers abortion. If you have other insurance, the procedure may be covered, although you may still be on the hook for some amount because of your plan's deductible.” This was published in 2016. Right now, in 2018 the abortion pill can cost from $300-600. Information on cost of birth control can be found here: https://www.birthcontrol.com/how-much-does-birth-control-cost/ A summary of these costs of birth control from the pill to an IUD, the price can range from $0-$250 for the initial visit and of course depending on insurance coverage the cost for birth control for a year can range from $0-700 a year. So, you mean to tell me, without insurance, a years worth of birth control cost about the same as one abortion? Depending on ones insurance, abortions can be covered partially or fully as well. This means, depending on the insurance, an abortion can cost the same as birth control, nothing at all. Why would anyone subject themselves to an abortion over all the other options that cost the same if not cheaper than an elective abortion? What is so wrong with limiting access to abortions and wanting women to make better choices than killing their unborn baby? Why would we want every woman to believe and count on an abortion to get them out of an unwanted pregnancy? Why would we encourage a young girl or woman to go through something that seems so unnecessary? Her right? Her body? Her choice?

Well, if we have to give a little to get farther in the fight, I say we are talking about a human life and giving in to 10 weeks is more than a compromise in my book. It’s a human life. You have had it your way this long with legal abortions, late term abortions and how many millions of abortions done since Roe V Wade, its time to have a different view on murder rights. Women should be empowering and championing women away from ever having to experience making that kind of decision. The idea that any woman would want an abortion disgusts me. When I say “want” I literally mean, if you are having unprotected sex and counting on an abortion “just in case”, that is a want waiting to happen, not a need. You have all the tools to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, use them. Don’t force a doctor to undo what was the expected result medically of two people engaging in sex.

The only way the Doctor should have to intervene in a pregnancy with an abortion is if: 1. The girl/woman was raped. I believe this can help encourage girls/women to come forward in the event they are victimized, if for no other reason than to be able to have the option to terminate, just in case. Its so important for women to come forward as soon as possible after an attack. One of the only ways to prove and prosecute a rape is to file a report with the police. This documentation is what your family physician should need to terminate the pregnancy on the grounds of rape. Of course a girl victimized and impregnated by family should have this option, no question.  I truly believe there really is a hardship on certain women/girls. In the rare cases when a woman needs an abortion due to a rape, its understandable that its because she cannot mentally nourish and embrace the pregnancy. You may not think this is important. Let me just say, from personal experience, your mental state is just as important to a pregnancy as physical. A mothers mind is vital to how her body responds to her unborn and always developing baby. 2. A woman/couple is actively using at least 1 form of birth control from their family physician and it failed. When a Dr. prescribes birth control and its ineffective, the parents to be should get to decide privately with their Dr. the legal options and the time line in which these choices run out. Abortion expires very quickly given a 10 week deadline, so its best to be prepared and get ahead of the concern with proper planning. Funny, how one of the contributors to abortions is called Planned Parenthood, yet they seem to specialize in the very opposite. Having a prepared outline is not a bad thing. 3. In cases of medical emergencies/birth defects. I know what some of you will say. Birth defects should not be a factor, get what God gives you. However, with insurance premiums crippling Americans and it taking a special kind of care, time and money to care for these children, that may never, ever experience true quality of life, that again, should be a personal decision discussed between the parents and the doctor. That’s not to say, every woman who finds out their baby will have defects would choose the option. I adore and celebrate any family that takes on the challenges of raising special needs children. Having families available who are ready to take on the challenge, should be able to link up with local physicians to connect with these soon to be parents, to discuss other available options. The time frame for discussion is small, however, these things really need to be thought through before having sex.

Boys and girls alike should be taught to understand genetics. Love is great but standards for our future and doing everything we can to ensure we never have to end a life is important. Knowing our family health risks and understanding the things we can pass to our children seems like a lesson we all should learn without question. I’ve seen some pretty useless classes in school, how bout we trade them in for real life lessons. I don’t expect to see a sign out on a public street of an aborted baby, but I would accept that to be including in sex education class. Every boy and girl should be taught all about abstinence, self control, hormones, desires, consequences, commitment, birth control, consent, genetics, finances, because babies cost money and yes, what an abortion is and what it looks like. The ultimate goal should be to shut down every abortion clinic through educating our future to not accept this procedure as a normal response to an unwanted pregnancy. This procedure should not be elective but medically necessary for reasons listed above. Why can’t the goal for pro choice and pro life be the same? To eliminate the need for elective abortions. If we can reach the next generation and so on and so forth seeing this in a different way and learning the alternative to such a dark option, why is that not good for everyone?

I don’t have all the answers. I'm sure a pro choice advocate would bring up points I did not mention. As I said, I didn’t want this to be a book. Just an eye opener. We should not be performing abortions at the rate we are in this country. We need to start with limiting elective abortions across the nation at 10 weeks. Everyone's focus should be to not have abortion as a birth control option. Abortions need to be rare, which means restricted. Anything after 10 weeks is barbaric and should not be condoned without a very serious reason. This is what keeps this procedure rare. Educating, teaching morals and getting back to a time when it was frowned upon to be so loose with our choices. Instead, its now celebrated. The shout your abortion movement in my mind is disgusting because it promotes the idea in mainstream that abortions are ok, and we can be irresponsible because we can legally kill the “inconvenience.” Just because its legal doesn’t make it right and that is the message we should be spreading. My son and my nephew were premies. My nephew was born at 25 weeks. The limit the Democrats seem to be comfortable with. He is now a healthy young man whom you would have never guessed started his life at barely 2 pounds. My son was born early weighing four pounds at 29 weeks. He is now almost 6’2” and a healthy 25 year old. We have a duty to be responsible with our lives and the lives we create. We need to do better by teaching our future to be better. Everyone has a different idea of what that is. Some women think never marrying and sleeping with hoards of men is ok and should be accepted without being called a slut or raped. I agree. However, do it responsibly, have some class. Some women want the white picket fence and 2.5 kids and a successful husband. Make choices that gets you that life. If you want to be a single woman, independent of children and have a career. Don’t have a one night stand with your gym trainer without considering the consequences of unprotected sex.

We are all responsible for the choices we make. Why would we champion women to experience an abortion, when we can support and encourage positive decisions, making good choices and hopefully, never, ever having to subject herself to that kind of act. Pro choice and pro life women alike need to understand this. We all should be on the same side. Abortions should be safe, legal and rare. I know not everyone agrees on these conditions for one reason or another but its a start. The goal should be that abortions stay safe, legal and rare. That last word as well, means something. The rare part can only happen if we first and foremost see abortion for what it is. Killing an unborn baby. No one should want a world conditioned to murdering unborn babies.

This world is only what we make it to be. It’s time that we end this embrace of abortions, using my body my choice as a reason and celebrating it as if its a badge of honor. Stop it. Just stop it and maybe one day we will live in a better world. One where people respect themselves enough to never find themselves in a situation where a woman wants or would consider an abortion.