Huffington Post Fart Huffing #01 - The Asian Self-Shame

Well, we're back after months and months of inactivity. And what better way to get back to my one and a half readers than to take a look at the Huffington Post?

I was never the biggest fan of this publication. But then again, I was never against it per se. But then, like nearly all other left-leaning publications, they took a massive turn to the far left and began spewing dumb little articles about topics that would make an average Joe cringe. Topics that really have zero merits to them once you give them a good once-over. This is one of their freshest articles. Let's dive in.

1. 

The article itself is titled I’m An Asian Woman Engaged To A White Man And, Honestly, I’m Struggling With That. It was published in the HuffPost Personal section and written by guest author Tria Chang. From what I've gathered, she's a left-leaning author and food connoisseur from one of the USA's biggest (literal) shitholes, the city of San Francisco. Most of what she writes in terms of politics revolves around - you've guessed it! - race and racial representation. But this article in particular, which Sargon of Akkad covered in a video today, left me partially speechless. This article deals with interracial dating, and our author doesn't seem to like it.

I'll provide you with a thought experiment. Imagine a middle-aged white dude from Alabama saying this sentence: 

“Oh, God, another Asian girl/white boy couple,” I groan, dropping my [fiancé’s] hand.

How did that sentence make you feel with that mental image? If you were being honest, you'd probably say "goddamn, what a racist! So what if a white man and an Asian woman are dating? What the hell is the problem?" Now try and ask yourself (which you really shouldn't) if it's equally racist if an Asian woman said this sentence, or started an article with it as Tria did. But that's the world we live in, folks. We live in a world where an Asian woman groans at interracial couples while being a part of one itself.

But that's literally just the tip of the iceberg. The very next paragraph of this article is her wishing they were anything else other than a couple, and her fiance is obviously bothered that she does this, and according to her own words, she does this often. What kind of a partner openly wishes for a different partner just because they were of a different race and just because there are lots of interracial couples out there? I can't believe I even have to ask this question today. 

But oh sweet Moses, it doesn't end there. 

Shame is neither the wisest nor most mature part of oneself, but it still has a voice. “Stop it you guys!” my shame wants to say to these other couples. “Can’t you see the more of us there are, the worse it looks?”

“It” meaning the prevalent trend of Asian women seeming to end up with white men. “It” meaning the perpetuation of Asian fetish.

Ah, so now we come to the crux of the issue. She thinks her relationship came from a racial fetish. And this isn't me coming up with a conclusion based on four paragraphs. She outright admits as much later in the text. Apparently, her fiance didn't date her, fall in love with her nor propose to her because of genuine attraction (which, paradoxically, she also admits to being the case!) but it's, I guess, just a very serious and festering case of this white soyboy wanting himself some Asian poon. 

I can't even begin to describe how bizarre this is. Not to mention she was also taught that Asian fetish is a thing at school (imagine my shock). She even recounts a story of a boy in ninth grade giving her a poem asking her to date him only to discover, from her friends supposedly, that he had been, and I quote, "suffering from Asian fetish" for a long time. What was his crime here? Him saying, and again I quote, "Asian women just seem deeper to me, y'know." 

What a terrible thing to say to a woman. You seem deeper to me than other women. Ugh, such sexism, I wanna die. 

Now let's just quote one little paragraph before we move on:

I thought it would get better in college but every time someone non-Asian showed interest, the whispers would start: I heard he had a half-Asian girlfriend in high school. He took a Japanese class last semester. Huge fan of sushi. Like, big time.

Yes, that is an actual paragraph in this trash heap of an article. "OMG, gurl, like, I heard he had a half-Asian girlfriend at one point in high school. He also, like, totally likes the Japanese language and sushi! Clearly, he's a racist!" For fuck's sake, can't anyone enjoy other cultures anymore? You'd expect San Francisco, of all places, to be welcoming of people who are interested in other cultures. But apparently, being attracted to Asian women is now a problem because you're...not seeing them as human? Do you see them as sushi or a language with pictograms? As someone who has been intimate with women of different races (white, black and Asian, to be precise), I do find this revolting. Normally, I would say that I didn't date them because of their race, but knowing Tria, she would probably dismiss my comments as those of a "privileged white male", so I'll just put it out there that those same women who were with me didn't give a damn about my skin color. We bonded over mutual attraction, similar interests, and good, old-fashioned chemistry. And it pains me to have to emphasize this, but it must be done - reader(s), date whoever the hell you want. Don't let idiots tell you not to date someone because of their (or your) racial makeup. Ever. 

2. 

The mind-blowing idiocy continues when she begins to write about her fiance in the early days of their relationship. And I don't just mean "romantic relationship", I mean their daily interaction from the get-go.

It took me a little while to figure this out, but once I became more settled in college, I met my first Asian boyfriend, who ended up being my husband. Sadly, he also became my ex-husband. This relationship was followed by one with another Asian male. Suffice it to say, I went a decade without the thought of white men or Asian fetish even crossing my mind.

I find this particular bit hilarious. The two non-white dudes she dated turned out to be worse than those of white dudes. Let's compare and contrast, shall we? "This white dude loves that I'm Asian, writes poems to me, treats me well and wants to be with me? What a racist, I must end it, he doesn't respect my boundaries! This Asian man wants to marry me? Yes! What can go wro--oh, divorce? Oh..." San Francisco dating, ladies and gentlemen.

And then it starts:

Now it’s something I think about every day, because of said fiancé.

He came into my life during a period when I had sworn off men. I had been in relationships my entire adult life and just wanted to focus on myself. “Single for five years!” I declared my goal proudly. Eleven months later, he showed up at my door.

He was there for a party I was hosting, and he didn’t hit on me. He asked me questions and listened to my answers. We discovered we had gone to the same college, had the exact same self-made major, were both left-handed, loved to write, didn’t drink and couldn’t handle spicy food. A mutual friend we both loved was sick, and we initially started seeing each other just to visit her in the hospital. One evening we found ourselves alone together. I told him my plan to be single for a long time and that we could only be friends. He told me that he honestly felt more but would respect my needs. He never pushed, but we kept seeing each other, kept asking each other questions, listening to the answers. It never got boring.

As I started to consider lifting my relationship ban, that old white ghost came back again: the whispers of Asian fetish. He has a pattern of dating Asian women. Do you know how many Asian girlfriends he’s had? He just might have an Asian fetish.

So let's sum up. He met her, fell in love with her gradually but still respected her enough not to push the dating issue, they still began dating, he kept being supportive, they even liked the same dumb things, and THIS gave her Vietnam flashbacks of the Asian fetish? Oh, was me using Vietnam as an example a racist statement, you ask after reading her "old white ghost" line? 

Honestly, I have to give this soylord props. He managed to endure being in a relationship this long with her, despite her obviously having an issue with his race. If it were me, I'd probably end it right there and look for a woman who would like me for being me. 

Speaking of the soylord and his leash-handler, Tria, in her own words, demanded of him to know what the fuck (sic!) was going on? Imagine asking your fiance why you're attracted to me with the words "what the fuck?" and with no less than a demanding tone. Of course, he got defensive, as any sane person would after such a demonstrably idiotic question. He notes that he's from Cupertino, a city with a 63% Asian population and that in his surroundings, dating an Asian partner (be they Chinese, Japanese, Indian, Bangladeshi or anything else ethnically) was more or less the norm. At this point, I'd like to talk to Tria personally and let her in on a little secret. Tria, in Uganda, the chances of dating a black boy or girl in high school are at 98%. In Thailand, dating a man or a woman of Pacific Asian descent will happen in 97% of cases. In Poland, having a white boyfriend or girlfriend will be the likely outcome 96% of the time. If you're surrounded by a majority of people of a certain skin tone, chances are higher you'll be dating a person from that group. You're not very likely to date a Japanese man in the middle of Chad or Nigeria. 

 But her response to this claim of his was just...I don't even have the right words for it.

I rolled my eyes at the luxury white men have to not think about race in their daily lives. I, on the other hand, started obsessing over it. I couldn’t be the girlfriend of someone who had an Asian fetish because that would make me complicit in a pattern that was rooted in violence and colonization. I was busy trying to be a progressive, independent woman and an Asian fetish boyfriend did not fit the bill. 

A goddamn luxury of not having to think about race? Tria, Dr. Martin Luther King expressly fought for the world where you don't HAVE to think about race! Just date whoever you like! If anything, he would celebrate the fact that a white man can be attracted to a non-white woman and express it openly. Back in the day, interracial dating was such a taboo that you'd be ostracised for merely entertaining the thought. But that's not good enough. Apparently, even expressing admiration or love for a person of a different race is, in some twisted way, racist. What the actual hell? 

And the last two sentences of that paragraph really do irk. Dating someone is making you "complicit in a pattern that was rooted in violence in colonization." Notice how she didn't say "being with a white man is violence and colonization", mainly because it isn't. It's just dating, for Christ's sake. But if we're talking about violence and colonization, I'd like to bring up some history, mainly history where many Asian armies were outright brutal against other races - Mongolians, several different Chinese dynasties, Arabs and Ottoman Turks... But that doesn't fit the narrative of this woman's insane obsession with the race of her fiance and what people around her are going to say. After all, she's too busy being a progressive, independent woman. 

A quick aside: if progressive, independent women's biggest problems revolve around their fiances liking women of different races, I can safely say that they don't know what a real problem in society actually is. In addition, I'd question their so-called progressive nature and independent self-identification. 

And then one of the most mind-numbing things came up in the article:

On the other hand, he hadn’t once given me a race-based compliment or made me feel anything but respected. I knew him to be a good person, someone who was working on being better every day. That’s the kind of partner I wanted, the kind of person who’s so hard to find.

So, even this dude, EVEN THIS DUDE, who literally ticked every box that she found to be insulting with former white boyfriends, even HE was guilty of this thing she calls Asian fetish? Even this pathetic excuse for a guy who bent the knee at every step in their relationship was guilty of something? In fact, I don't even have to ask these questions. I'll just quote literally the first sentence that follows in the paragraph after this one. Remember, this paragraph tells us about how caring and thoughtful this guy is towards her, in her own words no less.

So I returned to him with homework. 

Good Lord. This guy is literally the guy she wanted for ages, and even THAT wasn't enough; she, in fact, had "homework" for him. And what was her rationale behind this line of thinking? Well, she said that he could explain away his former relationships with factual data all he, and again I quote, "can’t deny how it looks from the outside." Who gives a shit what it looks like from the outside? Who gives a shit what other people think of YOUR relationship? You're both adults, you're both consenting to be together, so why in the hell would you let anyone else tell you how you should treat your relationship? This is the most bizarre and downright mentally challenged thought process I've come across. And it doesn't even end there!

 Despite his tendency to be defensive (is that one of those hot white guy traits?), he took my request to step outside himself seriously. He asked me questions, and he listened to my answers. We delved into not only the dynamic between Asian females and white males but also unfair portrayals of Asian men throughout history, and the backlash that public figures like Constance Wu and Chloe Kim have contended with for dating white men. It’s an uncomfortable conversation, but we’ve continued it through the years.

I'll just list the things that struck me as horrific in this paragraph:

1. She has the audacity to call him defensive, despite giving the reader ample evidence that he had good reasons to defend himself;

2. She judges him quite literally based on his race and gender, and even his looks (apparently it's not disturbing for her to have a prejudice over what traits of hot white guys are);

3. He STILL acquiesced and literally listened to her prattle on about her imaginary problem;

4. What the hell do public figures have to do with their personal relationship? It literally makes zero actual sense;

5. They apparently continued with this nail-gnawingly irritating conversation for actual years beyond that point. 

It's just one hypocrisy after another with these social justice types. Why can't you enjoy your own damn relationship without turning it into a massive issue? Why do you mentally derail a dude who is literally prepared to do anything to make your relationship work? It's just absolutely stunning to me how much SJW culture can ruin literally any aspect of social interaction, including even the interpersonal relationships of SJWs themselves.

But it doesn't even end there! 

The reason we’re still together is that I know I don’t have to wrestle with these discomforts by myself. If we pass three couples in a row who are white men and Asian women and I ask, “But seriously, why?!” he won’t pretend he didn’t see it too. He’s making an effort to not leave me alone in the awkward parts of our love, and I’m making an effort to not let go of his hand. We’re not perfect. But after I rise from the little dips of shame, I wouldn’t actually want either of us to be anything else. 

He's making an effort to play into her delusion and to obey her demands that involve tedious conversations and outbursts And her comparative effort? "Well, I try not to let go of his hand too much." I can't believe this psycho. The apparent reason she's still with this poor weirdo is just that he's decided to join her in her delusion. It's not that she still loves him despite all of this. It's not that she's gone past her original fears and delusions. It's that he just happened to agree, for the thousandth time, that she's right and he isn't. 

Now let's get realistic here. Every person alive has a fetish. Some like anal, some like toys, some like feet, some like rough sex, etc. And yes, you can say that skin color is a fetish. What people like Tria tend to ignore is that this fetish is something everyone has. For example, she clearly has a fetish for white guys. She won't admit to it because that would shatter her dumb little narrative, but it's more than evident from this text alone that she does. But let's move beyond Tria and onto people you can actually talk to in real life. If you were to install Discord and enter any one of thousands of kink rooms or dating servers, you'll see just how often these fetishes manifest with everyone. I've met at least ten or fifteen women on one server alone who were black or Hispanic, but had a craving for white men. I've also met tons of white women who expressly preferred dating black or Asian men. The same was true for literally any other partner out there. I also personally know a girl who only dates obese men. That's right! She only likes fat guys! The issue I have with Tria's article is that she treats fetishes as an end-result instead of a quirk. We all have our preferences. Sometimes that includes skin color. But to the person that's in a long-term relationship, those things don't really matter that much. They just want to be together with the partner they love. 

And again, I must stress - what's wrong about liking someone because of their skin color is different? Asian women are attractive, as are black women, as are Middle-eastern women, etc. There's no shame in being attractive because of these traits. At the end of the day, it puts people in a no-win situation. Or, in other words, it will look like "you're dating only people of your skin color? Racist!" and "you're attracted to her because she's of different skin color? Racist!" or even "you don't care about her skin color? Racist!" I don't want to live in a world where I can't date someone because of what they were born as. So fuck people who try to tell you otherwise. If you like Asian women, date them! If you like white men, date them too! Or maybe you like them all? Awesome, go for it! Otherwise, you'll end up a closet racist like Tria here. Tria, whose Twitter handle, I should add, is Treekachu. In someone's twisted mind, that would be racist in and of itself, because Pikachu is both Asian and adorable, speaking in cute, high-pitched sounds. Much like an Asian woman might sound during sex. Or like the KPop singer Hyuna. In at least seven different interviews.